Staying Sober When You Swing
A lot of swinging opportunities can be found in private parties or swingers clubs. It is only natural that you will be drinking in such occasions, but if you come to the premise with the purpose of swinging you should never drink too much. Staying sober when you swing is very important and this article will explain to you why.
First of all, swinging is about being sensitive and having mutual pleasures. This goes for all parties involved in the experience. If you are drunk — or even use recreational drugs and get high — you will lose your senses and it will most likely be a disaster. There is a great chance that you might make other parties involved uncomfortable with your acts and the overall experience will be ruined.
Staying sober when you swing is also important because there are limits that must be appreciated. Once you lose yourself to alcohol, reminding yourself to stay within the predetermined boundaries can be a difficult task to complete. If this is the case, you will end up breaking your spouse’s heart and disappointing your swinging mates. Do you realize how devastating that can be? You can be ruining the chance of enjoying another nice swinging session or attending swinging events in the process.
Now that you know how important it is to stay sober when you swing, all you have to do next is act accordingly. Several shots of your favorite liquor are still fine, but you shouldn’t go overboard. Besides, by staying sober you can enjoy the process even more.
Swinging the Safe Way
A lot of people who enjoy swinging as part of their lives know that there are plenty sexual activities involved in swinging. With the issue of sexually transmitted diseases, or STD’s, becoming more sensitive, it is essentially important to practice safe sex whenever you are swinging. Most members of the swinging community know this, but you will still find one or two swingers who refuse to use simple prevention methods such as condoms to prevent STD’s.
Whenever you are approaching a swinging opportunity, be clear that you will not engage sexual activities unless you are sure it is completely safe and protected. There is nothing wrong with asking your playmates or other swinging couples about their sexual health as long as you do it politely. They will appreciate your concern and will openly explain to you matters that you need to hear. You should use the same approach whenever someone asks you about your sexual health before swinging.
Safe sex practice is a must. There are medications that you can take to prevent STD’s, but the use of condoms will substantially decrease the risk so you must use one when swinging. Some of you may not be comfortable with the use of condoms — it is OK not to use them as long as all parties involved are comfortable with the decision — but STD prevention methods must still be taken. With proper care to your sexual health, you will be able to swing safely and enjoy the lifestyle to the fullest.
The Saint & Sinners Ball: The Next One Is Coming Right Up!
One of the most popular swinging events in Australia is definitely the Saint & Sinners Ball, known to be the largest and most exciting swinging event to this date. Saint & Sinners Ball is very popular although it is officially an off-premise event because of the variations and excitements involved in the event. There are literally countless events so far and the next one is coming right up.
Yes, the next Saint & Sinners Ball will be held in New Year’s Eve. What could be better than spending your new year’s eve having your wildest sexual fantasy made to live, right? The Saint & Sinners Ball will be packed with visitors and guests from all across the glove, so if you really plan on going to the event then you should seriously book early.
The Saint & Sinners Ball is definitely a great opportunity to meet different swingers from different parts of Australia – and even from all around the world – and it will be a fabulous opportunity to take your swinging experiences even further. For the upcoming event, you are given the freedom to wear anything you like to the ball – as long as it is sexy, kinky, and arousing enough, then you can wear it. Role playing with costumes or simply appearing at your best will be a challenge made possible by the Saint & Sinners Ball hosts for this event. This is the swingers’ event you would really want to attend at least once in a lifetime, and you have your chance to do just this New Year’s Eve.
Swingers Clubs
Some people just love placing personal ads and going through profiles online to find other swinging couples or playmates, while others just prefer to meet in flesh directly and see if anyone interests them. There are more swingers clubs available all over the world, creating even more opportunities to meet other swinging couples and amazing playmates. If you think you can enjoy being in a swingers club and meeting other swingers, it would be a great experience for sure.
Remember that swinging is all about being comfortable, so make sure you research some basic info about the club before actually going. There are on-premise and off-premise club; those of you who don’t feel comfortable about seeing other people engaged in sexual activities in the same room should opt for off-premise clubs. Different clubs have different rules and ambience, so it would be best to do a little research and have some sort of picture about what to expect to avoid awkward situations and discomfort.
You can easily find information about a certain club online, or you can ask references from other swinging couples you may know about which club you should try. You should also confirm with your partner about club selection just to make sure that they are also comfortable with it. You will be able to find a nice swingers club near you without a problem, and you will surely have a great time going to the swingers club once you established it is the right club for you and your spouse.
How to Bring the Topic of Swinging Up
The very basic question about swinging would have to be on how you can bring the topic of swinging up and persuade your partner to join. This is simply a classic question, and a lot of swinging couples dealt with the awkwardness of the subject once in their experience. So how can you bring up the topic of swinging in a conversation with your spouse?
The approach you must take is a loving and responsible one. Saying things about how you would like to have sex with someone other than your spouse will surely hurt their feelings and it will not get you anywhere. Probe questions such as “have you ever fantasize about having sex with other people?” followed by a loving gesture that it is not a trick question will do the job almost every time. You will be able to determine whether they are interested or not just by watching how they answer this question carefully.
Remember, you should never push your spouse into swinging. Your partner needs to understand the loving and trusting nature of the lifestyle and commit to it voluntarily. Otherwise, the whole experience will be a definite relationship breaker. Be sensitive as you explain to them about swinging and how both of you can benefit from the lifestyle. Answer their questions objectively and let them be comfortable enough to tell you about their fantasies as well. If the responses are positive, you can talk more about the lifestyle and find resources that can help you and your partner understand swinging even more.
First Swingers Club Visit: Going on a Trial Run
So you and your spouse are ready to swing, and you know exactly what each of you wants from the lifestyle, what next? At this point you may be deciding to go to a swinging event or swingers clubs. That is a solidly good move, but you need to make sure that it went smooth to avoid devastating trauma. The best way to do it is to agree that the first visit to a swingers club is a trial run.
A trial run is a good way to get familiar with the ambience. Both of you need to agree that the visit will only be about checking the situation and the people out; there will be no rush at all, and walking away without doing anything is completely acceptable. By agreeing to this term, you can eliminate nervousness often occurs when you are visiting a swingers club for the first time. I have advised a lot of new swinging couples to take this approach and they ended up feeling comfortable enough to actually engage on sexual adventures on their first visit. It is about removing the tensions so that both of you can feel completely comfortable with the visit.
If an opportunity comes up and your partner is hesitant, don’t do it. Just tell the other swingers that your spouse is not yet comfortable with swinging on the first visit and that your goal was just to check the ambience out. They will understand completely and you will be able to develop your partner’s trust and the level of comfort to the lifestyle.
Last Night at the Vista!
All I can say is that I am disappointed. Last night I went to the Vista Club with Yeli and what did we find, we found used condoms around the Jacuzzi area, it was quite disgusting and I think that this has really lowered our views of the club. We have been going there for nearly 3 years now and the overall standard in my eyes has dropped. We have experienced similar situations before, but never like this, we always thought them to be quite a clean club, but it is obvious that they don’t take care enough of their premises.
We paid quite a lot of money to get in, and after a blowjob in the Jacuzzi, we decided to leave and continue our night at home. It was a shame that the standards could drop so much. I’d imagine its hard to clean a place like that, but finding what we found was quite disgusting in our eyes, and unfortunately we may have to search for another club if this continues.
However, we did enjoy the night anyways, we had Derek and Jessica round for a party and we had a play around with some new and strange moves. I must say it was quite an experience. Jessica being the kinky girl she is brought round a copy of the Kama Sutra and we went through the book looking at some different positions to try as a group. It was a ton of fun, but it was very exhausting also.
One Crazy Night
Last night has to be one of the craziest nights I have ever experienced. A week ago we announced in Club Renford that we would be having a house gathering and that people were invited to come and join in for some big sexual activities.
Me and Jane are a privileged couple since we are outside of town with our own house, but thank god that we are living outside because we had about 100 visitors to our house last night. Sure, we expected maybe 10 or 20. But this has to be one of the most active nights yet. We enjoyed a few drinks to start off and we then noticed that a few couples had already started off the night so we joined in and the whole premises suddenly turned from a quite residence to a loud group orgy!
There were so many people which was great because we were not stuck for choice. I cannot remember how many blowjobs I received last night, but I feel great this morning as a result of last nights action. However, it did leave a lot of mess around, not just inside, but outside also which is going to take a while to clean up. It was a fun night, but the tidying up is going to be a pain, however, thinking back now, it was definitely worth it. Jane I think enjoyed herself more than me, she’s still in bed now with someone from last night!
Katie and Mark!
Well, what can I say, what a night it was last night. Turns out that Katie and Mark are quite the experienced couple. Me and Linda traded with Mark and Katie so we could see their experience. Boy, were our assumptions wrong, though Linda thought Mark to be average, I must admit that Katie really knows how to pull a guys strings. I have never known someone who can make me hold out so long, and she did it in a very sexy way also, I can’t believe that she is this active in the swinging community at such a young age.
Linda and Mark got on very well, however I do feel that Mark was not as experienced with Linda as opposed to Katie with me. It is no surprise though since Katie said that they were only married last year, that is why they made the move into Aidensbrook since Mark has a new job which will help fund and hopefully start up a family. But I admire their attitude, especially in a new town environment. Katie should be glad she met me first, anyone else may have thought her to be rude, which is a shame because sex is something we can enjoy if we want to.
I’m glad we met Katie and Mark, they have great experience and they are very social, we hope to meet up again at some point for another night out since we really enjoyed ourselves last night. One thing I can say for sure is that I have never met such an active and experienced couple.
Our Trip to the Club!
The club was unusually busy last night, mind you, it is Summer. However, we did meet a very interesting couple from Watersbrook which is just out of town. We enjoyed a night of sex and even some oral encounters between the two, we gave it a try since we felt that we needed a change, mind you, Kyle and Lilly were not there tonight.
We were very happy with tonight, however we do still feel fairly new to the whole swinging business without Kyle and Lilly being there. But me and Jake decided to invite our new friends back, funny thing is that we just dived in, we didn’t even catch their names this time, however we were a little bit tipsy, so who knows?
We got back and enjoyed a few more drinks and then we decided to try out some new moves with one another. It turns out that they were a bisexual couple which was cool with me and Jake since we are gay. But last night I experienced my first foursome, it was a strange experience having so much sexual activity going on around me as opposed to just one on one. But it is a memorable experience which I intend to do again if we can convince anyone of it. Maybe we can even expand our horizons and join in a big group activity, its fun and definitely playful!
