First of all, swinging is about being sensitive and having mutual pleasures. This goes for all parties involved in the experience. If you are drunk — or even use recreational drugs and get high — you will lose your senses and it will most likely be a disaster. There is a great chance that you might make other parties involved uncomfortable with your acts and the overall experience will be ruined.

Staying sober when you swing is also important because there are limits that must be appreciated. Once you lose yourself to alcohol, reminding yourself to stay within the predetermined boundaries can be a difficult task to complete. If this is the case, you will end up breaking your spouse’s heart and disappointing your swinging mates. Do you realize how devastating that can be? You can be ruining the chance of enjoying another nice swinging session or attending swinging events in the process.

Now that you know how important it is to stay sober when you swing, all you have to do next is act accordingly. Several shots of your favorite liquor are still fine, but you shouldn’t go overboard. Besides, by staying sober you can enjoy the process even more.

Remember that swinging is all about being comfortable, so make sure you research some basic info about the club before actually going. There are on-premise and off-premise club; those of you who don’t feel comfortable about seeing other people engaged in sexual activities in the same room should opt for off-premise clubs. Different clubs have different rules and ambience, so it would be best to do a little research and have some sort of picture about what to expect to avoid awkward situations and discomfort.

You can easily find information about a certain club online, or you can ask references from other swinging couples you may know about which club you should try. You should also confirm with your partner about club selection just to make sure that they are also comfortable with it. You will be able to find a nice swingers club near you without a problem, and you will surely have a great time going to the swingers club once you established it is the right club for you and your spouse.

A trial run is a good way to get familiar with the ambience. Both of you need to agree that the visit will only be about checking the situation and the people out; there will be no rush at all, and walking away without doing anything is completely acceptable. By agreeing to this term, you can eliminate nervousness often occurs when you are visiting a swingers club for the first time. I have advised a lot of new swinging couples to take this approach and they ended up feeling comfortable enough to actually engage on sexual adventures on their first visit. It is about removing the tensions so that both of you can feel completely comfortable with the visit.

If an opportunity comes up and your partner is hesitant, don’t do it. Just tell the other swingers that your spouse is not yet comfortable with swinging on the first visit and that your goal was just to check the ambience out. They will understand completely and you will be able to develop your partner’s trust and the level of comfort to the lifestyle.