So you and your spouse are ready to swing, and you know exactly what each of you wants from the lifestyle, what next? At this point you may be deciding to go to a swinging event or swingers clubs. That is a solidly good move, but you need to make sure that it went smooth to avoid devastating trauma. The best way to do it is to agree that the first visit to a swingers club is a trial run.

A trial run is a good way to get familiar with the ambience. Both of you need to agree that the visit will only be about checking the situation and the people out; there will be no rush at all, and walking away without doing anything is completely acceptable. By agreeing to this term, you can eliminate nervousness often occurs when you are visiting a swingers club for the first time. I have advised a lot of new swinging couples to take this approach and they ended up feeling comfortable enough to actually engage on sexual adventures on their first visit. It is about removing the tensions so that both of you can feel completely comfortable with the visit.

If an opportunity comes up and your partner is hesitant, don’t do it. Just tell the other swingers that your spouse is not yet comfortable with swinging on the first visit and that your goal was just to check the ambience out. They will understand completely and you will be able to develop your partner’s trust and the level of comfort to the lifestyle.